3/16 Journal/blog: Joining

Posted: 2010/03/16 in Blog

I recently had an opportunity to engage in another great debate session with a good friend of mine; the subject was marriage and who should be allowed to get married.  My stance has always been that the term ‘Marriage’ was a term used to describe the union of a heterosexual couple; I still stand by this stance.  This stance is often confused with a stance of discrimination and/or hated, when it really is not.  I believe tht homosexual couples should have the right to enter into a union with all of the same legal rights as a heterosexual couple, it just need a different word.  This has nothing to do with classifying them as second class citizens, I do not believe that they are.  It is merely a definition.  Why do they need two or three words?  Why, in all their moves for equality, does the homosexual community still classify themselves as gay and lesbian couples as opposed to just couples, without the title before it?  That’s really all it comes down to for me, is the words.I believe that everyone should be able to join into a union with whom ever they want and it’s none of the governments business.

As far as the government is concerned, I have a slightly radical concept on the whole topic.  If I recall my history lessons correctly, the United States of America is supposed to have a separation between church and state.  If this is correct, then they have no business governing heterosexual or homosexual marriage in any way shape or form.  It was pointed out to me that there are several legal and tax benefits and ramifications that marriage has sway over.  I believe that, with a little work, we could replace these with civil contracts.

All in all, I truly believe that every person has the fundamental right to pursue their happiness with whomever.  I believe that it is not the governments place to control love.  I believe that there is no reason to hide what kind of love you are apart of.  I also believe that everyone should be proud to state and label their chosen path.

  1. sals says:

    I agree with your reasoning but marriage is what is commonly associated with the union of two people and so it is the first word you think of when you think of a couple. Unfortunately,even though govt is supposed to be separate, it never will be because it is run by people who have religious views. I do believe if they wanted to be “married” then there should be no reason that anyone can’t “marry” anyone else regardless of any reason except being forced to.

  2. merkaba33 says:

    Sorry, but I have to disagree with you. Your hang up on words is something that you have defined and are trying to project onto the world around you. Merriam-Webster is in the business of documenting and sharing the actual definitions of words, and as you can see below, both traditional and gay marriage are considered marriage.

    I do agree that the state has no business legislating who can marry. I just disagree that we need to invent a new word.


    Main Entry: mar·riage
    Pronunciation: \ˈmer-ij, ˈma-rij\
    Function: noun
    Etymology: Middle English mariage, from Anglo-French, from marier to marry
    Date: 14th century
    1 a (1) : the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2) : the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage b : the mutual relation of married persons : wedlock c : the institution whereby individuals are joined in a marriage
    2 : an act of marrying or the rite by which the married status is effected; especially : the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities
    3 : an intimate or close union

  3. waffles says:

    Civil Union is the word… Marriage is what ya get via your church and civil union is what the government gives. At least that’s how it should be, but our separation of church and state is fucked. I approve of civil unions for everyone, but I can’t say a church has to allow anyone or everyone to get married, that’s up to them.

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